Many people think, talk about sex to children and adolescents is taboo. The fear is that sex education will only lure children and teens to have sex attracted. In fact, the opposite has been proven scientifically. Teens are given proper sex education actually delaying sexual intercourse.
The study was initiated by the reproductive health organization The Guttmacher Institute has shown the importance of sex education in teenagers. The researchers analyzed data from about 4,691 U.S. adolescents aged 15-24 years were obtained from the National Survey of Family Growth between 2006 and 2008.
Questions in the survey were, among others, tried to dig if the teens have formal provisions on how to refuse sex and contraceptive methods. The teens also answered questions about their first experience of vaginal sex.
The survey results showed that about two-thirds of young women and 55 percent of teenage boys ever get information about contraception and the importance of saying no to sex. About 20 percent said they were just learning how to delay sex and 16 percent of women and 24 percent of boys said they did not receive sex education.
The last group, which did not receive sex education appeared to have the worst sexual behaviour. Of this group, more than 80 percent said they had sex before the age of 20 years.
In addition, teens who received sex education claim they use contraception when having sex for the first time. They also tend to have a partner that is “healthier”, the lover whose at the same age or no more than three years.
Other studies have been published which found that a comprehensive sex education is to teach teens to not have sex altogether (abstinence). In this way, the teens will delay having sex and also prevent pregnancy.
Basically, the researchers wanted to convey the importance of sex education in children and adolescents before they experience sex.
Based on research in 12 major cities in Indonesia stated that 62.1 percent of junior high school students had sexual intercourse and 22 percent alias adultery schoolgirls never do abortion. In addition, many other cases such as sexual abuse of children and adolescents to others or even made between a brother to his sister.
There are many things that can prevent the above phenomenon, one of which is at the core of it all is sex education in the family. Assessed sex education needs to be delivered in the family since the family is the primary source of education and for the first child and teenager.
Sex education here is not in terms of how to have sex, but the efforts of the teaching and implementation sexual issues given to children, in an effort to keep children from unethical behaviour and cover all possibilities towards illicit sexual intercourse is adultery.
Sex education for families should also be applied to children according to their age, according to phase of their development. According to their developmental psychology pase it is as follows:
1. Pre-puberty period
This phase there is between the ages of 7-10 years. At this stage the child can be taught to recognize the identity associated with their biological organs and the differences between men and women. At this age children are given the notion of looking at things and ask permission to enter the room when his parents
This phase there are around the age of 10-14 years. At this stage the child should be given an explanation of the scientific basis of biological functions, limits decency, morals association of men, and maintain decorum, and dignity. Children should be kept away from a variety of sexual stimuli, such as movies, porn books, books that show the sexiness of women with mini clothes and so on.
3. Adolesens future
This phase is also called juvenile phase of approximately 14-16 years. At this stage is the most critical phase and important. Curious instinct in children is increasing. At this age the child is ready to marry (marked by the functioning of reproductive organs), then the child can be taught a lesson about sexual ethics.
4. Adolesens future (Future Youth)
After a period of time adolesens they entered into boys and girls, at this time the child was given a lesson on ethics “keep away” if it is not able to perform marriages.
With efforts in the family and hopefully we can avoid the environmentally related social issues of sexual problems increasingly bolder worsen.
Parents often have problems talking about sex to children. In fact, given the importance of sex education from an early age. Reason for concern that the child be interested in sex, then beat the benefits of sex education.
Sex education should be understood as an effort to give parents awareness and information to children about sexuality. Sex education is also given to inculcate moral, ethical, religious commitment to avoid misuse. Sex education is also the forerunner of a family education.
What parents experienced barriers to open dialogue about sex?
Parents hesitate to speak of sexuality as it is still considered taboo. Ignorance parents to initiate discussion becomes another issue. Therefore parents should begin to equip themselves to add insight about parenting and sex education. In fact, not a few parents who do not understand well the benefits of sex education, for children and family life in the future. With the basis of morals, ethics, and religion, sex education could be the prevention of abuses.
Parents need to understand the reality of the society in order to understand the importance of sex education. By providing sex education from an early age, the family as the smallest unit in society, can be a safe place for children, and children be a source of strength to avoid alarming reality.
Sani said a number of facts that would like to open the eyes, how important sex education for parents and children
More open flow of information, and child access. The higher the sexual harassment cases, as well as premarital sex. Transmission of HIV and sexually transmitted diseases increasingly alarming. Not to mention the children drop out of school due to pregnancy. Lack of understanding of the impact of a series of facts about sex can be avoided if the two-way communication and open dialogue between parent and child is established early on.
Next week, the Association of Christian teachers and lecturers Plymouth University will discuss strategies to protect youth from the dangers of pornography and sexual acts that are not healthy (27/3).
Based on reports obtained by the Telegraph, the teacher will discuss a motion on the impact of pornography to students and Christian values are taught the dangers of pornography to young people.
The university considers that pornography can change the way of thinking of children, especially girls, as their bodies change to plastic surgery. “I have heard of a teenager 13 years has been involved in amateur porn videos. This is really heartbreaking,” said Helen Porter, a professor at the University of Plymouth.
Moreover, he added that 50% of young people are involved in a number of sexual activities webcam video.
The Telegraph found nearly 80% of young people look at pictures online Sensual and the average of them aged 11 or 12 years. Porter also said that pornography is never mentioned in many schools and is considered taboo, but actually it is considered very necessary to be discussed and introduced to the students early.
Child’s curiosity can not be answered by parents potluck. Because at this time, the child is exploring herself. Parents should be the safest place for a child, who is able to give a proper explanation. Unfortunately, many parents who struggle to give a good response, especially regarding questions about sexuality.
Parents need to equip themselves and become more intelligent. Due to today’s question in a more intelligent, although he was still very young. Provide understanding about sexual issues early on, can make communication more flexible parents and children in the future.
Sex education needs of early childhood, even to someone who has been married. Sex education is still needed by married couples.
So understanding what should have communicated to parents and children with the right language? How do stages?
Early period, it is time to introduce parts of the body
Early childhood has been able to talk about sex. Criterion, when the children have started asking about sex, as well as two-way communication with parents was awake. The average child age 2-3 years has begun to communicate both ways with her parents.
Teach children the language of science, introduced the term penis and vagina to the child, not to call it by another term, such as birds.
At this age, children also begin to be introduced to the functions of the body. Vagina and penis as urinary tract, anus to defecate. Sex education from an early age could begin basic knowledge like this.
School early period, time awareness and make her children proud
Primary school children have started whitish, because underwear is dirty or how clean the area is wrong. Children have to be taught how to clean the body including the genital area well.
Awareness that begins with the cleanliness of the body’s organs to the point of beginning. That way, children can learn responsibility for themselves and begin to understand the importance of caring for the body and sex.
At this age children begin to explore the gender area. Moreover, with a variety of information more open and accepted by the children.
There are children who ask why when hugging pillows and clamping bolsters in genital area causing a great sense. Or the child asked, why his penis was standing in the morning. Parents need to get the right answer and provide awareness.
Teach the children that the sensitive genital area that needs to be maintained, adding with a clamping pillows, bolsters will hurt the genital area. Children also need to be taught about the size of the penis, which is different for each man. With this understanding, the child understands his body. Even if school friend, for example, comparing the size of the penis, the child already be equipped with the proper knowledge of his parents. That way, children feel proud of what they have.
Adolescent period, understand the psychological aspects
During this period, teenagers experiencing puberty. In boys characterized by an enlarged voice and wet dreams. Whereas women with menstruation started puberty.
Introduce children to the psychological aspect is headed into the future. Women become more sensitive and increases appetite for men, for example.
Do not let the children of confusion, and a period without a clear knowledge. Parents need to be more active and take the initiative to equip children. But do not be too much indulgence in this psychological issue, the focus is to equip the child to control his emotions at this stage.
Parents need to equip teenagers with sex education, so that children can receive him, with a variety of physical and psychological changes. That way, the child can be confident and able to control sexual desire that has begun to emerge, especially with the current situation in which many teens are having sex, even though in a secure way.
Adult period, sexual satisfaction is important for couples
Appropriate sex and quality needs to be recognized and understood the couple. Both of which will soon be married or married decades.
For married women, aged over 40 years, for example, sex is no longer interesting. While husband at this age, is in peak periods associated sexuality. This can be circumvented so that sex can still be enjoyed by couples and qualified. Understanding more about sex can answer the question.
If it’s too late to undergo early stages, and now your children are teenagers, for example, does not matter if you simply open communication and provide an understanding of appropriate sexual stages of the child’s age.
Although modern era has now spelled out, but sometimes sex is still a taboo subject for most families. Sex education must be introduced early, so that the children can understand the impact of sex organs sexual activity at a later date.
Many parents today are starting to provide sex education or put their children to schools that provide sex education curriculum for children. There are several suggestions and restrictions that should be considered while giving parents or addressing sex education.
Sex education is teaching efforts, awareness, and providing all information on matters related to sexual activity. One of the information provided is knowledge about the function of reproductive organs to inculcate moral, ethical, and committed to prevent ‘misuse’ of the sexual organs.
Sex education should start early for someone to marry. The good sex education is given if already built a two-way dialogue between parent and child, which is around the age of 2-3 years.
For that, check out some suggestions and abstinence following a parent can do to address child given sex education in schools, as reported by About.com.
Try to let the kids get sex education in school. You may not agree with some that are taught, but the education can serve as a starting point. Also try to open communication with the child. Ask also about the sex education curriculum that he received at school. You can also get along with teachers of sex education, but it does not have to dictate how it should be taught.
Never too chatty and make children become embarrassed by the sex education she got at school. Do not think that sex education in the school your child can be enough, because kids today are bombarded with a lot of access to pornography, either from the media or his friends. So, still accompanied children well.
Do not also impose your opinion on sex education in children. Matters related to sexuality have some gray areas and each generation has their own opinion. So, respect your child’s opinion.
Sani explained that sex education at the age of the children begins with the mention of genitals right and then proceed with its function. If the child has been understood, then teach them how to care for and nurture genitalia.
When children are teenagers, sex education given is to find out how they understand about puberty, for example about wet dreams, Adam’s apple growing. or menstruation for girls.
At the age of premarital, new sex education provided contains about how to have healthy sex. As for the people who are already married, then sex education given is how to remain qualified sex.
Thus, by providing the right information early on, children can understand the sex organs and sexual relations in the right way and the healthy.